The LIT VOW Journal
Planning guides, cultural traditions and ideas for guests — written by LIT VOW for couples getting married in Canada, the USA and around the world.
Wedding app vs. wedding website: what guests actually use
A wedding website is built for browsing weeks ahead. A wedding app is built for the phone in a guest's hand on the day. Here's how to choose.
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Wedding dress codes, explained: black tie to casual
What black tie, black tie optional, formal, cocktail, semi-formal and casual really mean — and how to write a dress code guests will understand.
How to collect every guest photo from your wedding
Shared albums, hashtags and QR codes compared — and what a selfie photo finder changes.
When should wedding RSVPs be due? (And how to chase the late ones)
The right RSVP deadline for local and destination weddings, what to do when guests don't reply, and polite follow-up wording you can copy.
When to send save-the-dates and wedding invitations: the complete timeline
A simple month-by-month timeline for save-the-dates, invitations and RSVPs — for local weddings, destination weddings and international guests.
The Chinese tea ceremony, explained for every guest
Who serves whom, what the red envelopes mean, what guests should wear — and how to explain it all to every guest.
How to say "adults only" at your wedding — kindly
Polite wording for an adults-only wedding, where to say it, how to handle exceptions and how to answer the parents who ask.
Wedding hotel room blocks, explained: courtesy vs. guaranteed
How wedding room blocks work, the difference between courtesy and attrition blocks, how many rooms to reserve, and what to do when hotels won't offer a block.
How to plan a wedding weekend itinerary guests will actually follow
A sample wedding weekend itinerary from welcome dinner to farewell brunch, what to include for every event, and how to share it so guests never get lost.
Destination wedding guest guide: everything to tell your guests
The complete checklist of information destination wedding guests need — travel, documents, accommodation, events, dress code, weather, money and local tips.
Chinese wedding door games: ideas, etiquette and timing
What Chinese wedding door games (gatecrash) are, fun and modern game ideas, how red packet negotiation works, and how to keep the morning on schedule.
How much to give in a Chinese wedding red envelope (Canada & USA)
Red envelope (hongbao) etiquette for Chinese weddings in Canada and the US: typical amounts by relationship, lucky and unlucky numbers, and when and how to give.
How to plan a bilingual wedding both families will love
A practical guide to bilingual and multilingual weddings — invitations, ceremony, speeches, signage and your wedding app — so every guest feels included.
Audio and video guestbooks: the wedding keepsake you'll replay for decades
How audio and video wedding guestbooks work, phone-booth vs. app-based options, prompts that get great messages, and how to get every guest to leave one.
Wedding QR codes: where to use them and what to link
The best places to use QR codes at your wedding — invitations, photo sharing, schedules and guestbooks — plus sign wording and mistakes to avoid.
What to put on your wedding Q&A page: 25 questions guests really ask
The questions wedding guests ask most — dress code, plus-ones, kids, parking, gifts, traditions and photos — with example answers you can adapt.
Wedding website privacy: what not to put online (and how to protect it)
What couples should keep off public wedding websites, whether to use a password, and how to share details safely with guests.
Two ceremonies, one weekend: planning a fusion wedding
How to plan a multicultural fusion wedding — combining a tea ceremony and a Western ceremony, scheduling outfit changes, and keeping both families involved.